Every interpersonal relationship requires work and maintenance, especially romantic relationships. Whether it’s a long term dating relationship, a long lasting engagement, or a marriage, all couples eventually experience problems they need to address together. It’s the way two people go about addressing those problems that makes a couple stronger or weaker.
When couples and married partners experience problems they can no longer solve independently, it can be beneficial to the relationship to seek couples or marriage counseling. I specialize in helping married couples identify their issues, improve communication skills, and develop empathy for one another so they may work toward a happier, healthier relationship and marriage.
Couples and marriage counseling helps couples of all types recognize and resolve their conflicts.
I help couples make thoughtful decisions that work toward rebuilding their relationships or, in some instances, toward deciding to go their separate ways. Counseling is nearly always beneficial to couples who are having problems because it allows partners to address and attempt to resolve their conflicts in a peaceful and non-judgmental environment.
Couples seek marriage counseling for a variety of reasons:
- lack of emotional intimacy,
- lack of sex
- parenting disagreements
- and many more.
As a neutral third party, I work with both partners, and in some cases one partner, in a way unique to their individual situation and needs. Every couple is different and some couples require more work and effort than others, depending on the severity of the conflicts and their willingness to open up and try to resolve the issues.
Who says both people have to be in couples therapy?
Marriage counseling and couples coaching can have many benefits even when only one person from the relationship is present in the counseling session. I can counsel one person who wants help and try to get their partner in for a session later. Fortunately, it only takes one person to seek help in order to change an entire relationship.
Small changes in communication and emotional awareness can go a long way.
It may take more time, but those small changes can eventually have a positive impact on your relationship.
Couples and marriage counseling can seem like a scary step to take, which is why many couples put it off until the conflicts have severely weakened the relationship.
Seeking marriage counseling doesn’t mean that a person wants to change their partner, it doesn’t mean it’s the end of the relationship, and it doesn’t mean that either person has failed in any way.
Like a sickness, the earlier you can address conflicts and issues in a relationship, the more likely you and your partner will be to keep your relationship healthy.
Divorce is always difficult, but it can be the best decision for two people whose goals aren’t compatible.
That’s a decision that they come to, not one that I ever make for them, just as I don’t decide that they should stay together.
I help them explore the issues and think realistically, and they make their own decisions. I provide my clients with the best counseling possible and can work with clients no matter what condition their marriage might currently be in. I can assess the current state of your relationship and offer my professional opinion on the best way to approach and resolve conflicts in your relationship.
Learn more about marriage and couples counseling here.
Diane Spear, LCSW-R, owns a private practice in the Union Square/East Village area of Manhattan (New York City). She specializes in anxiety, depression, couples, and parenting treatment, and has been helping people find the joy in everyday life since 1995. She is accepting new patients. To learn more about Diane’s approach to treatment, click here.