“I know I could increase my business if I gave some presentations, but I’m not comfortable with public speaking.” “I’m nervous about showing my fiction to other people, so I could never take a writing workshop.” “I’m not comfortable meeting new people. How could I possibly go to a networking event?” Or go on a blind date. Or look for a new … [Read more...]
Quick Question! Is Love a Noun or a Verb?
A few years ago there was a recurring TV spot aimed at getting kids to be more active, with the tagline: “Verb: It’s what you do!” Many people I see in individual and couples treatment look at love as a noun. It’s something someone gives you—and usually the person isn’t giving you enough! But this post isn’t about grammar, … [Read more...]
Are You Checking the Boxes
Many people start treatment because they have a certain dissatisfaction in life. They look good on paper, but their successes feel empty. They’re checking the boxes in life: Ivy League degree(s)? Check! Fast-track career? Check! Attractive spouse? Check! 1500+SF apartment in a great neighborhood? Check! Children? … [Read more...]
Sustainable Relationships
A friend sent me a link to an interesting article by Tara Parker-Pope in the New York Times in response to my previous relationship post, “Is This the Right Person for Me?”. It discusses the premise that couples who have exposed each other to new experiences, thereby growing in ways that they would not have on their own, feel … [Read more...]
Is This the Right Person for Me? Wrong Question!
“Is this the right person for me?” How many times have you heard your friends ask this question when they’re dating someone? Or maybe you’ve asked it yourself. The answer is….(insert drumroll here): It’s the wrong question! The right question is “Am I the right person in this—or any—relationship?” Turn that magnifying … [Read more...]