Arguing is not automatically bad for relationships. Conflict and disagreement are normal and inevitable. If a couple always agrees, you can guarantee that one of them is compromising in an unhealthy way. So, don’t fear that argument. It’s a chance to hear each other and practice healthy conflict resolution. But, and you knew there would be a … [Read more...]

There’s good news about individual therapy. For the vast majority of people, it no longer carries a stigma in many situations. If you tell someone you’re going to counseling, you’re likely to get praised for practicing self-care. But what about couples counseling? Well, unfortunately, the progress is a little slower in that realm. Studies … [Read more...]

  In the world of rom-coms and celebrity love, the idea of the “friend zone” is undesirable. It’s where people (usually males are depicted) often feel stuck and unseen by the person for whom they feel attraction. This misguided concept undermines the essential value of friendships. It also underestimates the vital role friendship might play … [Read more...]

Does your partner ever say "this reminds me of that episode of… [fill in the blank]," when discussing a relationship matter? How often do you do the same? It’s actually fairly common, especially when couples find themselves homebound thanks to the pandemic. Now more than ever, we are looking for ways to feel connected and socially stimulated. What … [Read more...]

It’s not the pandemic. It’s the lockdowns. A massive life disruption for nearly a year has placed unprecedented strain on our collective mental health. Part of that strain is leaning directly on any couple's life. They weren’t kidding when they said, “for better or for worse.” Relationships across the globe have been suddenly navigating a wave … [Read more...]

Lower your expectations? I know, it’s not exactly the stuff of inspirational videos. But this suggestion has its place. We live within a culture that often makes promises it cannot keep. Relationship promises often arrive wrapped up in fairy tales, romantic comedies, and internet memes. They may not use the same words but they are built on … [Read more...]

Stress can place internal and external pressure on us as individuals. We can get worn out and out of sorts. Soon irritability and exhaustion start getting in our way. The same dynamic holds true for our relationships. In fact, as life goes on, you and your partner may directly or indirectly put a significant amount of pressure on each other. And, … [Read more...]

It’s a bit of a cliché now to say “everything has changed” in 2020. But, let’s face it, a lot of what we deemed normal has been transformed — perhaps forever. In such an environment, where do dating, sex, and romance fit in? Existing couples have had their share of challenges. It is a completely different story for those who are not yet … [Read more...]