In the world of rom-coms and celebrity love, the idea of the “friend zone” is undesirable. It’s where people (usually males are depicted) often feel stuck and unseen by the person for whom they feel attraction. This misguided concept undermines the essential value of friendships. It also underestimates the vital role friendship might play … [Read more...]
Why You Should Avoid Comparing Your Relationship to Movie & TV Scripts
Does your partner ever say "this reminds me of that episode of… [fill in the blank]," when discussing a relationship matter? How often do you do the same? It’s actually fairly common, especially when couples find themselves homebound thanks to the pandemic. Now more than ever, we are looking for ways to feel connected and socially stimulated. What … [Read more...]
Despite the Pandemic, Thriving Couples Have These 3 Qualities in Common
It’s not the pandemic. It’s the lockdowns. A massive life disruption for nearly a year has placed unprecedented strain on our collective mental health. Part of that strain is leaning directly on any couple's life. They weren’t kidding when they said, “for better or for worse.” Relationships across the globe have been suddenly navigating a wave … [Read more...]
Setting the Bar for Relationship Expectations In the Basement
Lower your expectations? I know, it’s not exactly the stuff of inspirational videos. But this suggestion has its place. We live within a culture that often makes promises it cannot keep. Relationship promises often arrive wrapped up in fairy tales, romantic comedies, and internet memes. They may not use the same words but they are built on … [Read more...]
Under Pressure? How to Overcome Internal & External Relationship Stress
Stress can place internal and external pressure on us as individuals. We can get worn out and out of sorts. Soon irritability and exhaustion start getting in our way. The same dynamic holds true for our relationships. In fact, as life goes on, you and your partner may directly or indirectly put a significant amount of pressure on each other. And, … [Read more...]
COVID-19 Dating: New Rules of Engagement in the Age of Social Distancing
It’s a bit of a cliché now to say “everything has changed” in 2020. But, let’s face it, a lot of what we deemed normal has been transformed — perhaps forever. In such an environment, where do dating, sex, and romance fit in? Existing couples have had their share of challenges. It is a completely different story for those who are not yet … [Read more...]
In the News: Quoted in March 13, 2018 Well + Good
I was recently quoted in the following Well + Good article by Zoe Weiner . Hope you enjoy! Could your phone be ruining your relationship? Zoe Weiner, March 13, 2018 Photo: Stocksy/KKGAS Ah, date night. A cute outfit, a drool-worthy plate of gluten-free fettuccini, a few kombucha cocktails… and both of you … [Read more...]
In the News: Quoted in Huffington Post article on December 21, 2017
I was quoted in the following article, New Year's resolution #4. If You Want A Better Relationship In 2018, Do This Goal-setting is better together. 💑 By Brittany Wong Geber86 via Getty Images It’s easy to get off track with your New Year’s resolutions when you’re the only one … [Read more...]
“It’s Never Too Late to Reclaim Your Life!”
“So, does everyone in the movie theater look like me?” I playfully asked the ticket taker. “Um, I’m not sure,” he said, answering carefully. On September 8, 2017, I saw “Year by the Sea,” a film (now available on Amazon and iTunes) about an older married couple, Joan and Robin. I had seen the film trailer the previous week and noticed the … [Read more...]
Guest Blog Post for Fifth Meridian Travel Blog
Incompatible Travel Styles? 5 Tips from a Couples Therapist for a Great Trip! Fifth Meridian Travel featured a guest blog post I wrote entitled "Incompatible Travel Styles? 5 Tips from a Couples Therapist for a Great Trip!" on their blog on July 31, 2017. … [Read more...]