There was a time—not too long ago—when this problem was less common. When connecting with a potential friend or partner, your respective political leanings would become known. If there were a chasm, that would be enough to derail the connection quite often. This is not a good thing, but beliefs and opinions can reign supreme. More recently, it … [Read more...]

Most people would agree that cheating in a relationship is a dealbreaker. At the same time, at least four out of 10 married couples report that money conversations always lead to a fight. So what happens when these issues are combined? Financial infidelity is a thing. For example, 31 percent of people say they have a secret credit card. Such a lack … [Read more...]

Popular culture does us no favors when it comes to relationships. We’re raised on “love at first sight” and “happily ever after.” This soon morphs into “soul mates” and couples “completing” each other. The sentiments might be sincere, but the outcomes can be dysfunctional. The thousands of love songs about being inseparable may have launched just … [Read more...]

Most couples, when first married, aim a lot of attention to their relationship. Then… the kids arrive. Out of necessity and choice, the focus shifts dramatically. Children inspire and require new approaches in every aspect of your life. You and your partner will likely find yourself building your day-to-day choices around the needs of your … [Read more...]

Generally, you’ll find many different types of intimacy discussed by relationship and/or psychology experts. These include affectional, intellectual, emotional, sexual, recreational, spiritual, aesthetic, and social intimacy. While all of them are important, this common list highlights how often financial issues are downplayed in terms of … [Read more...]

You’ve found the person you want to marry. Congratulations! What else could you possibly need to know, right? Slow your roll and plant your feet on the ground. Marriage is far more than fairy tales and romantic comedy. It requires a commitment to steady work and self-awareness. You also need a healthy dose of preparation before you tie the … [Read more...]

More than two-thirds of people in relationships say money is a stressful topic. This can result in important conversations being avoided. After all, is there a seemingly less compatible combination than finances and love or intimacy or romance? However, more and more couples are opting to move in together rather than marry these days. In other … [Read more...]

Arguing isn’t good for relationships. Conflict and disagreement are normal and inevitable, but discussion doesn’t have to devolve into argument. If a couple always agrees, you can guarantee that one of them is compromising in an unhealthy way. So, don’t fear that difference of opinion. It’s a chance to hear each other and practice healthy conflict … [Read more...]

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  In the world of rom-coms and celebrity love, the idea of the “friend zone” is undesirable. It’s where people (usually males are depicted) often feel stuck and unseen by the person for whom they feel attraction. This misguided concept undermines the essential value of friendships. It also underestimates the vital role friendship might play … [Read more...]