What makes a good life?
- Lots of money?
- Good health?
- Professional success?
- A long-term relationship?
All of these can be components of a miserable life or a satisfying one. Why?
Because a good life starts from the inside.
I don’t mean physical health, because I’m sure you know people in peak health who are unhappy.
And you’ve at least heard of people who are terminally ill and are fully enjoying the time they have left. What makes the difference? An ability to find the joy in everyday life!
What does finding the joy in everyday life mean?
It’s not about having to have everything perfect in order to be satisfied.
You know, the “I’ll-be-happy-when” syndrome:
- I’ll be happy when I lose ten pounds.
- Or own an apartment.
- Or get a big promotion.
- Or move to San Francisco.
- Or when I’m in a serious relationship.
- Or when my child gets into Yale.
- Or when my partner gets smart and starts doing things my way.
These are all external things and situations, and you can be happy with them or miserable with them.
How about now, dealing with the people and situations in your life today? Do you know how to be happy? How to make yourself happy? Can you feel good about how you handle yourself, regardless of what the people in your life are doing?
Or are you waiting for someone else or a situation to make you happy?
Counseling Can Help Ease Life’s Transitions
One gauge of a good life is satisfaction in love, work, and play.
You may be in transition and know that you’re missing satisfaction in one of these areas.
- Maybe a major relationship has ended through divorce, death of a loved one, or a bad breakup.
- Or relationships are just hard for you, whether it’s a dating relationship, a marriage, or relationships with parents, children, friends, clients, coworkers, or supervisors.
Or the transition in your love life may be a positive one:
- dating after a breakup
- getting married, starting a family
- beginning a new chapter with your partner when your children leave home.
Work is where you probably spend the majority of your time, so that if there’s a transition in your work life, it can affect the other areas of your life—positively, or negatively!
I’ve helped many people with many job and career transitions:
- first jobs after college
- work-life balance
- leaving staff jobs to freelance
- leaving the freelance world for staff jobs
- negotiating the corporate ladder
- scaling back from full-time corporate life to start a family
- returning to part-time work or ramping up your career from part-time to full-time work when your children are older.
And what’s the point of working so hard if you don’t know how to have fun along the way, and you can’t relax at the end? That’s just a grind, not a fulfilling life!
Remember above when I said that lots of money, good health, professional success, and a long-term relationship can be part of a wonderful life or a miserable one? Well, you can bring a sense of fun to your daily life, or a sense of dread and feeling burdened.
Fun is an attitude, as well as an activity!
Maybe you “look great on paper”—you’ve checked all the boxes—but you’re not enjoying your life.
Why aren’t you feeling as good as you “should”? Why don’t your insides match your outsides? What’s getting in the way?
I can help you! This is something we’ll explore together through therapy, and this can make a big difference in your enjoyment of your life.
Counseling and Psychotherapy Can Improve Your Quality of Life
I provide treatment for a variety of untreated issues that can interfere with the quality of your life:
- Marriage counseling and couples counseling: “A child needs to be loved. An adult wants to love. Couples counseling helps you love more maturely.”
From the moment you pop into the world, you want connection. It’s an emotional and biological necessity.
- Anxiety treatment: “Anxiety is a small footprint on the mind. Anxiety treatment prevents it from becoming a rut that traps all other thoughts.”
Living in New York City can be stressful or wonderful. And much of how you experience it depends on how you see the world and yourself—how you think about and deal with the people and situations in your life.
- Depression treatment: “Depression steals the good feelings from your day-to-day life and your memories. Depression treatment restores your energy and optimism to plan a better future.”
Are you feeling empty, helpless, unmotivated? Disappointed? Alone? Are you feeling that life has passed you by? If depression is keeping you from fully enjoying your life, I can help.
- Treatment to improve self-esteem: “Self-esteem is learning to feel good from the inside out, not by comparing yourself to others. I’ll help you learn to feel better!”
Many people come to New York City with dreams of finding fame and fortune. You can feel good about yourself—whether or not those dreams come true—if your self-worth is based on the things that matter.
- Job and career support: “Hard work won’t guarantee the results you want, but it will improve your chances and you can feel good about yourself, regardless of the results.”
People say to follow your bliss, but first jobs—and later ones—aren’t always so blissful. I’ll help you deal with that discrepancy and plan next steps.
- Parenting counseling: “Parenting is uncharted territory for everyone. In counseling I’ll guide you through with compassion, humor, and skill.”
How do you cope with the sleep deprivation that comes with parenting? How do you balance your baby’s needs, your spouse’s needs, and your own? What’s spoiling your child and what’s considering your child? How do you help your child who spends most of the time shut away in his or her room? How involved should you be in your child’s homework?
- Substance use disorder counseling: “If you deal with the behavior without confronting the underlying issues, you’re just switching chairs on a sinking ship. What does the behavior mean?”
Do you know why you’re using substances? Are you looking for good feelings about yourself, trying to drown your pain, trying to avoid dealing with certain people or situations in your life? Psychotherapy can help.
- Trauma treatment: “An early experience of trauma amplifies whatever difficulties you encounter afterward. This makes it hard to ‘bounce back’ from setbacks and disappointments.
Trauma can be a factor in all of the issues listed above. I approach any trauma in a gentle, safe way, so that it’s talked about—not re-experienced.” You may be suffering from trauma and/or neglect and not be aware of it. Just because you didn’t grow up in a war zone doesn’t mean you didn’t suffer trauma. Just because you had a roof over your head and food on the table doesn’t mean you weren’t neglected.
I’m here to help.
It’s a sign of strength to ask for help, and your call to me is the first step toward the satisfaction and enjoyment you’re looking for. Treatment’s not quick and it’s not easy, but it’s worth the time and effort to feel better!
Take a few minutes to read about my psychotherapy practice in the Union Square/Greenwich Village area of NYC.
You’ll learn the difference between counseling and psychotherapy (I provide both), why we don’t just focus on the present in treatment, and why I emphasize the importance of reality in therapy.
Let’s work together to help you find the joy in everyday life!